Life Wisdom

Happiness is something to do, someone to love, and something to hope for. Don’t over complicate things. Always hold onto hope because that unlocks the others.

The four Stoic virtues: Morality, Courage, Justice, and Moderation.

You can't change the past or the present but you can change the future.

On Happiness:

  • “Rules for happiness: Something to do, someone to love, and something to hope for." — Immanuel Kant
  • “Don’t set your heart on so many things and you will get what you need.” — Epictetus
  • "Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the Gods made for fun." — Alan Watts
  • "Your Demons are angels in disguise." — Ralph Smart

On Confidence:

  • Confidence is being comfortable with being uncomfortable.
  • Know that one day you will face your worst fear. Understand why you fear it and face that now.
  • 80/20 rule - body language is everything

On Emotions:

  • "Pain is knowledge rushing in to fill a void with great speed." — Jerry Seinfeld
  • Any problem that arises: Is this something I can control, is this something I can change, or is this something I can let go of?
  • Don’t let the thought of being a failure make you more of a failure.
  • Don’t make decisions about what you want or who you are unless you’re in a good place.
  • Understand what you can control and what you can’t.
  • When you’re worried or upset, stop. Breath. Trust in love and time. Ask yourself why you’re really upset. Be vulnerable to people you care about. Go first.
  • Always take responsibility for your actions and words, no matter the situation.
  • Being a good Stoic doesn't mean never having strong emotions--it means having them to an appropriate degree, and letting them pass when they're ready to pass. There is no moral value to crying, it's just a sign of how strongly you feel about something.

On Self-Respect:

  • Respect yourself, always.
  • Take care of your body, mind, and soul above all else.
  • Be 100% clear on your boundaries and limits, not 98%.

On Self-Reliance:

  • "Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." — Mark Twain
  • “Care about people’s approval and you will always be their prisoner.” — Lao Tzu

On Dealing with People:

  • “People hasten to judge in order not to be judged themselves.” ― Albert Camus, The Fall
  • “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung
  • “I tend to get bored quickly, which means I must be boring.” — Anthony Hopkins
  • “My philosophy is it's none of my business what people say of me and think of me. I am what I am, and I do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything.” — Anthony Hopkins
  • A.P.I. — a sales tactic that means “assume positive intent”
  • T.A.R.A — Tolerate, then Accept, then Respect, then Appreciate
  • Treat everyone as if they like you already.
  • Look at people's intentions, not how they come across to others.
  • Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life whether Intentionally or unintentionally.
  • The majority of people don't care what product/person was first, they just care what's best.
  • Never trust anyone more than you trust yourself.
  • Everyone needs friends. Everyone.

On Success:

  • “A man can get discouraged many times but he is not a failure until he begins to blame somebody else and stops trying." ― John Burroughs
  • “The power of compound interest is the most powerful force in the universe." — Albert Einstein
  • “It’s all about his determination. You never, ever, give up once you start something, once you’re on the trail of something you don’t stop and that’s what you have to go through when you’re making a movie too. Once the train’s rolling, you have to stick with it.” — Peter Jackson
  • "When I was younger, the one thing I never denied myself were books." — Stephen Colbert
  • “Reading Is To The Mind, As Exercise Is To The Body.” — Brian Tracy
  • "It's not the value of your soul but the value of your skills in the marketplace." — Tony Robbins
  • “Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.” — Jerzy Gregorek
  • “Don’t half-ass two things. Whole ass one thing.” — Ron Swanson
  • Don't let best become the enemy of better.
  • Be patient and play the long game.
  • Give up the illusion that what you want will bring you ultimate satisfaction and then you will be able to attain what you want.

On Finding Mentors:

  • Find people that you admire that have a reliable income, scalable income, are in shape, have good relationships, have repeated success, and are at ease with themselves.

On Dating and Relationships:

  • “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” — Bob Marley
  • “The labor of our love will reward us soon enough” — The Growlers
  • It's a mark of good partnership that you treat your partner's emotions with respect, even if you don't understand them.
  • If you're afraid someone might cheat on you, you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. If you're afraid everyone will cheat on you, and that you couldn't handle it, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all.
  • Spend time around someone's friends, see how they live, and see how they spend their time before you commit to them
  • Talk to as many people as possible because you never know who you will meet again down the road.
  • Be the type of person that you would want to date.
  • Never go to bed angry, make sure you make up, lots of sex, don't keep secrets and communicate everything.
  • Love involves the heart and the head.
  • Everything is harder than it seems. Sometimes the things that seem easiest are actually the most difficult, just in ways we never imagined.

On Fear:

  • "Let all fear be your mirror, let it show you that it can’t hold you." — The Growlers, Nobody Owns You
  • “To put it more plainly: the desire for security and the feeling of insecurity are the same thing. To hold your breath is to lose your breath. A society based on the quest for security is nothing but a breath-retention contest in which everyone is as taut as a drum and as purple as a beet.” — Alan Watts
  • “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.” — J.R.R. Tolkien
  • "The trembling of laughter is the trembling of anxiety seen from a different point of view." — Alan Watts

On Justice:

  • “Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement. For even the very wise cannot see all ends.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
  • “Stop trying to use your speech to get what you want. You don’t necessarily know what you want. Instead, try to articulate what you believe to be true as carefully as possible. Then, accept the outcome.” — Jordan Peterson

On Failure:

  • We fall so that we can learn to pick ourselves back up (Batman Begins)
  • Feedback is a gift, failure is a lesson

On Learning and Reading:

  • “True learning should make you feel small not big.” — RC Waldun
  • “To acquire the habit of reading is to construct for yourself a refuge from almost all the miseries of life.” — W. Somerset Maugham
  • “If we encounter a man of rare intellect, we should ask him what books he reads.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • “The reading of all good books is like a conversation with the finest (people) of the past centuries.” — Descartes
  • “Reading is essential for those who seek to rise above the ordinary.” — Jim Rohn
  • “Never trust anyone who has not brought a book with them.” — Lemony Snicket

On Safety and Situational Awareness:

  • Trust your instincts. If you get a strange vibe, leave. Always.
  • Walk with confidence, your head up, and like you know where you are going if you are in public.

On Art:

  • "Passion is the genesis of genius." — Tony Robbins

On Fatherhood:

  • "Instead of buying your children all the things you never had, you should teach them all the things you were never taught. Material wears out but knowledge stays."  — Bruce Lee